Brutus and Cassius are discussing the final phase of their civil war with the forces of Octavian and Marcus Antonius. Cassius has been urging that they group their forces at Sardis and take advantage of the secure location to catch their breath. Then Brutus says…
There is a tide in the affairs of men.
Which, taken at the flood, leads on to fortune;
Omitted, all the voyage of their life
Is bound in shallows and in miseries.
On such a full sea are we now afloat,
And we must take the current when it serves,
Or lose our ventures.
I like to start my posts with excerpts from history! History has a way of teaching us many things, we must learn… we must take on opportunities that come to us or seek them and use them meaningfully, we must seek to use what is available to us to enhance our well being… and we must learn not to be selfish… yes blah blah blah!!! Why did I quote that particular discussion between Brutus and Cassius, first it is one of my favorite quotes from Shakespeare and two it can be applied to many contexts in your life as you deem fit.
Back from history class, anyway today morning I had an email exchange with a very close friend, so naturally along the way we discussed age (call it affairs)… yes age, the inevitable thing called age; so we reflected upon things that have gone good, weary, crushes, hearts that have been broken( oh those ouch!), lost dreams, lost ideals, friends you last called or sent that famous Christmas or happy new year message( I only reply those who have been in touch all year through), kissing your partner (I will use partner to accommodate our numerous orientations) good morning, calling your parent/guardian to wish them a good week, helping a child cross the road… etc The simple things in life yet as we grow old tend to neglect because we are busy chasing the buck, seeking self gratification and forget to smell the proverbial rose.
Along the way (the email exchange) we came to the discussion of mid life crisis; are 30-somethings being hit by an earlier mid-life crisis than it was the case some 10, 20 years ago! I don’t know, maybe yes, maybe not. Are 30-somethings asking themselves the things they have not done or the opportunities that they have not seized thus filling themselves with regret, bitterness, arrogant pride and heartbreak. Yes we all have seen some really bitter 30-somethings rumbling about this, that, yada, this economy that,I-this, I-that, career nye nye nye! But why that bitterness and self persona? Why? As we go through these transitions we question ourselves, our achievements, reality sets in and you wish you had done some things better. It’s only natural but that bitterness and self absorption will kill your soul…
Anyway what spurred me into writing this post was the final quote she shared…
“There was a time when people had the decency to wait until they were approaching 50 to have a mid-life crisis. Now it seems 30-somethings find themselves succumbing to existential navel-gazing.”
Don’t you succumb to that existential navel-gazing… Please don’t be self absorbed to the point of being narcissistic!
It is such a high tide we are floating on… Such a high tide!